I would like to add something quite personal. Like when you instruct your toddler to do something, and they give you a look of defiance and purposely do the opposite? The rod corrected the course for the sheep. They do occasionally hit, throw, make messes, talk back, and so on. 2. As with any skill, you'll need to practice self-discipline on a daily basis. This is of course my opinion, but it is an opinion based on experience. I have 6 kids and a home day care and my best advice to parents is don’t reward bad behavior and don’t expect more out of your children then you are willing to do yourself. The great men have made mark in their lives, because they strictly follow their goals with all the earnestness and sincerity. The rod was constantly in the shepherd’s hand as he walked in front of the sheep and led the way. Make practice a habit. Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. Discipline is important even in domestic life. How To Develop Self-Discipline. He screams and fights me to be put into a shopping cart, such as at the grocery store. When I’m stressed and yelling at everyone and losing my mind, this kid is like “Mom, seriously, it’s okay. Self-discipline is difficult. The very purpose of the OT is not only to give valuable life insight, but also to convey the very deep love of God for His chosen people. So basically you have to be present, engaged, loving, and practice good basic personal boundaries with a little person over whom you have authority while respecting them as a sentient being who will become responsible for his or her actions. I’ll do those chores in the evenings. My 22 mon old daughter recently started ISR swim classes. I want to be positive and loving and reinforcing. It’s so hard to say, as a general recommendation, what is really good or bad. Both at school and at home they should be made to follow the rules of discipline. Hence, the value of discipline in academic cannot be overestimated. The shepherds’ hook (aka rod) uses were not to hit the sheep to correct them, but rather, They’ll become calmer and want to spend more time with you, and they’ll listen because they love you and want to make you happy. We have the same routine every night, they are exhausted but get a second wind and totally disregard my wishes. I wonder if you have any other consequences that you use—writing sentences, taking favorite things away, going to bed early, not allowing participation in pre=planned events, etc? I was spanked as a child, quite a bit in fact, but I’ve never felt damaged or mistreated because of it. Just my two cents on spanking- if we have to instruct people on how far is to far, how much is to much before a child is injured it really just doesn’t seem like a good method of discipline. There are a few techniques that can be utilised to entrench discipline. Terms like “discipleship” and “spiritual formation” can feel abstract, making it tricky to know exactly what they mean for everyday life. Thank you , Here’s an article you may like: https://modernalternativemama.com/2015/02/06/child-runs-street/. To have a progressive and a stable life we should all make sure that we follow a disciplined life. A person who is disciplined gets respect in the society and always admired for his rules and regulations and also sets an example for others. I have the same questions. We both experienced spanking as a positive form of discipline and we plan on using spanking, as necessary, with our own children. I have had compliments. 3. And He adored children. Just what we needed to fine tune what we want to do as our almost 3 year old enters the clever testing phase! First I have to answer this. We’re going to do things differently now. Other areas in life are governed by rules agreed upon so that peo­ple can work and play together: the rigidity of the squares and the moves in chess, the rules of a trade union, the by-laws of a corporation, for example, and the regulation of traffic. It can be anything, either you commit to read books or complete a task in a timeline. They have no self-control or ability to think ahead. )” Exactly that. The rod references a shepherd’s staff, used to guide an errant sheep (or child) back to safety or the correct path. It’s not typically done “the right way” anyway. This teaches manipulation and is not what the world will demand of your adult child. Asking the Lord to guide and direct us as we raise our children is the best way to parent because these children that we have are his children. (I do not believe in “making” a child apologize. Tell an older child what he can do, rather than what he can’t. Call me crazy; I am fascinated by various parenting philosophies and practices. Importance of Discipline#3: Setting a good example to others. Mine aren’t rude, nor do they hit, (ok the two boys often wrestle, and play slug bug) but getting them to do chores is tough. is going to take to meet the goal, until we are already in the middle of our Let’s look at three real and personal examples. Discipline in Life - importance of discipline and its value in our life. 3. I felt really bad for doing it, it was emotionally very hard. 8 y/o him would be proud! Lately, our generally balanced boy protests loudly when we simply don’t understand what he is asking for. ( this was before I had even heard the term positive discipline and I was simply intuitively doing what I felt was right). It has been a long, hard road since I decided two years ago that I didn’t want to spank anymore. Examples of Self-Discipline . That is the bottom line. I also think it’s important to discuss what to do during the protest to the rules. It helps that we are both involved. Setting small goals that can change as you progress will help you We lead our children by teaching and modeling the behaviors and values we expect. I shared in another response that one of my kids is really resilient and is a true rock in a storm of chaos, and probably could “handle” being spanked (although has expressed to us previously “I don’t like being spanked. One of the easiest ways to train yourself to have greater discipline is to mirror the examples of self-discipline in other people. Then we make sure they understand the connection that they’re having a meltdown because they ate crap. It confused me and I have no memory of trusting my mother. I might also say “When you want to get through, say excuse me instead of pushing.”  And I make them try again immediately if they pushed someone out of the way. Which is to be expected, especially the first week. I am about crazy trying to figure out what to do to get him to stop. Bible verses about discipline Scripture has a lot to say about discipline. We used other forms of discipline for many other things but the Bible clearly talks about using the rod of discipline. you can do these things, the rest is easy as pie. Not only this principle or value is essential in sports but also in life in general. I don’t have teens, so don’t take me too seriously. I think I remember from reading previous posts that you are a Christian…. […]. And of course, repent if you spank out of anger, and repeatedly spanking in one session. Teach them how to do it repeatedly until you are sure they really understand — you might be surprised that they don’t. I go in and say good night to each alone and then Daddy goes in to do a final “tuck” and say good night, and then they are down. At this point I refuse to engage her and tell her we can talk when she isn’t whining. Learn how your comment data is processed. Don’t worry if these habits seem foreign to How do we say it’s okay when we really don’t know if someone’s doing it “right” or “wrong?”. The observance of well-defined rules is the basis of society. I felt very alone most of the time and I didn’t do a very good job at parenting my son. Just a reminder here, Moms…we live for an audience of one. I used to shop with one covered and nursing, 1 in the seat and 1 in the back of the cart or hanging on the side. Hi Kate! And I don’t see what you can do to a 18 months old who keeps undoing his car seat and getting out will benefit from anything else other than a spanking. But when you have an older toddler that is starting to test boundaries it’s different. Sometimes with new babies, they act out as a means of getting your attention. Thank you for this post. https://news.utexas.edu/2016/04/25/risks-of-harm-from-spanking-confirmed-by-researchers spanking definitely doesn’t work with her, she is one tough little woman. What do I do when after I’ve told my child that she walks beside me or holds my hand in a parking lot she says she won’t do either and darts off? That and we talk about why we make those choices. I see so many parents who just yell at their kids not to do something but never get up to do anything. I want to challenge you to start doing the little things you know you should do. Great article! He is raised bi-lingual (Dutch-English) so he can still be a bit difficult to understand. The perfect nature's law/discipline which controls the earth, the sun, the moon and other planets. That kid could NOT handle it. But next time same thing happened and I did took her to 1 second shower and she of course then listened to me, went to sleep and never did any tantrums again (yet). My 21-month-old might wake up from a nap angry, but once I give him a snack he’s perfectly fine. I agree with most of what you said. We have done things like earlier bedtimes (though usually it’s because they’re behaving poorly because they are overtired) and refusing participation in events (again, usually because we feel it’s a bad idea — the kids were told they couldn’t go to church on Wed. nights if they didn’t nap because we were up over an hour past bedtime and it would be Meltdown City at church if they were overtired). Now, this was started in my family when I was 11 or 12, and the youngest wasn’t even a thought yet. Everyone is so different and you just don’t know how they are experiencing it. Waking Up on Time. To remove from harm or corral stubborn sheep. progress. What do you do if the kid does x, y or z?”  All the research and theories in the world cannot replace this practical knowledge, which is rarely given. A positive attitude is necessary for a good life as ‘An attitude is a small thing that makes a big difference’. You persevere with your actions, behavior, and thoughts. I work x – y everyday, so I can’t do these chores that have to be done during the day. “Hands stay on the car or in mine in a parking lot” is another. When he’s gone beyond healthy boundrys, knows he’s doing wrong it’s discussed, and without humiliation, anger or out of control intimidation he is reprimanded properly and then loved. […], […] It’s similar to Montessori in that it’s based on logical consequences to misbehavior. Eve-testing is another example of irresponsible behavior on the part of our youth. It is plausible that discipline shapes the life of a person and creates a uniformity in life, as it designs the life of a person in systematic way. Everyone is different. To far left is not balance. Anyway that aside, I thank you for your honesty and thoughtfulness. I’ve done it before. It’s when they don’t feel so good that they have a short fuse and throw tantrums. If they don’t have the option of eating junk, they won’t eat junk. By continuing to browse this site you agree to our use of cookies. cleaning up the kitchen, our family area, when you are done), then you don’t get to have those things. 1. There are NO perfect answers and it’s not easy. I’m just curious how you would handle something like this. Proverbs 29:15 With growth comes the ability to enjoy life in … We believe “the rod” is figurative. We have been doing this since he was a few months old and I believe it is making a huge difference in his emotional development. I have noticed over time that spanking him made everything worse. Topics: (Introductioiscipline in nature, Importance, How to learn, Licence and freedom, Conclusion) Discipline Essay & Paragraph – We act according to certain rules and principles at all educational institutions, at home, in public life and everywhere. Proverbs 18:21 One of us will lie down with him until he’s settled. My son does not spank bc he does either. Importance of Discipline#3: Setting a good example to others. I was a high school teacher for a decade, but being a single mom is much more challenging and more rewarding. Proverbs 13:24 There are also some simple acts of discipline that you could practice in your daily life. How to you react to “tantrums” that you know is pure frustration? I have a question about this statement that you made: “Since that’s probably how it goes down in a lot of homes, we can’t say that spanking is okay, in a general sense, or that “the right way” is better. 2. probably a very disciplined person. I thought you might enjoy it, Kate. Not spanking, but consequences. Grow 7 Self-Discipline Habits of the Super Successful Lack of self-discipline is one of the things that holds us back from accomplishing what we want in life There would be consequences if he did, like going home immediately and not being allowed to shop with me the next time. I am writing this to provide one example of what works for us. I’d be interested in examples of how you direct them to choose healthy foods. The article links to the study. Most self-disciplined people remove the temptations for It didn’t help. This is a great post. What a lot of people say when they first hear about positive discipline is often something like “Okay, that sounds good in theory…but what does it look like in practice? My kids never had tantrums in stores either. I found it very helpful, I practice positive discipline a lot but find it not always I’m not writing this so that you can judge my parenting and tell me I’m “not doing it right.”  I’m not writing this because I have all the answers. The goal is the efficient use of time and this helps get the most out of time by setting limits to the time an activity can take. Every child Is different and it takes work to find out what what is best in different situations. You don’t see much “punishment” here. And follow it up with talking about the right response they should have had, repentance, and then lots of hugs. It will take a few months but you’ll start to see things change. A popular self-development Thank you in advance! Others have been spanked (probably the “wrong” way, frequently or very hard) and do have problems. If children are grown up in an atmosphere of love and brotherhood, they tend to be good citizens. Simple explanations are so great. Thank you for some tips about how another mom deals with little one issues. Discipline and punctuality make you a confident professional. Let me help you out, and we’ll get through this.” The kid’s been like this since barely 3 years old. –Olivia, I have trouble getting my son to listen, follow the rules of the house, not to throw toys, not to hit etc but every time I try to get onto his level and talk to him he laughs and thinks everything I say is funny I need help. I have always thought spanking was the easy way out of a difficult situation. She eats things that are not food, like chalk, dirt, shoes (chews the rubber),erasers,crayons,money, etc! The kid who doesn’t like to clean will refuse if we say “Go clean up.”  But if we say, “Please pick up the books,” it goes much better. In nature all the planets move in their orbit; the seasons change in accordance with a set order, day and night follow each other at regular intervals, Man must take lessons from Nature. But when your child blatantly rebels against a rule, I don’t see how positive redirection or the positive discipline works. We live in a world full of distractions. If I feel that I am angry and just want to hit him bc of his behavior, then I know that’s my anger talking and the consequences in that situation won’t be effective! Kids sometimes misbehave because they got what you don’t want them to do, but they don’t know what to do instead. We don’t do Cane sugar or any desserts b4 bed. Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him. That just means that some could deal with even a “wrong” spanking and it would roll off them, but others would be extremely distressed even by a “right” spanking. Anyone who thinks ANY way of parenting will spare you from any sort of tantrums/bad moods/etc. I believe he is a kid only once and it’s my job to teach respect for others and how to be a confident self assured man one day. Come up with a plan together. It’s a long process. Thank you for this wonderful article. For some reason when people set goals, they think that they … I know I don’t need their approval but they see soanking as the only source of discipline. One of the techniques to remember the most complex information is to convert them into Mnemonic devices so that it becomes easy to remember and recall. Your email address will not be published. Myself and my brother we spanked and raised in discipline. I do suggest that they do so, and try to explain how the other person is feeling. His son grew up to be a cold hearted, cruel, merciless man, hated by his people. Of course, if they push you lead them the right way immediately, but for example, if child throws a toy, do you take it right away or do you say, we don’t throw, it can break, hurt…. That was a couple years ago and I tried yelling and putting him in time out and etc. My goal over time is to modify their behavior, to teach them empathy and give them an internal moral compass. This habit makes you an achiever in your life. Our bedtime routine basically looks like this: Around 8, we send the oldest two kids to go potty, and help everyone into PJs. “Your car seat stays strapped until the car is off” is one. Self discipline helps you to focus on your goals. 9 Examples of Discipline. Typically we clean up one activity before we move on to another, and we simply don’t move on until the cleaning is done. Without it, we cannot prosper in this world. Punishment means to inflict negative consequences, like spanking, which we often don’t do (we’ve used and occasionally still use time outs). Thank you!!! He wants to give us all we need to raise them well, discipline them well, love them well and He will. And they MEAN it. I know people who were spanked who have a great relationship with them. We had just gotten back from a weekend trip and he was out of sorts. Time out and the rest great. Removing temptation will be the quickest Logical explanations and truth will help people to naturally learn the importance of self discipline. You make a place for chore assignments and your say that they will get the WiFi password once they finish their chores. Use this as a general guide and nothing more. Let’s look at three real and personal examples. Importance of Discipline in school life is very important for students. Leave me alone!” instead of hitting if someone is bugging him. 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